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Having challenges with infertility? Do you think IVF is your only option? Think again. Many doctors said that it was impossible for me to conceive. I’ll never forget the day I found out I was pregnant. Now two babies later I’m here to tell you that it can happen for you too. For years I had put off starting a family to do the things I wanted to do like party, travel, sleep in, shop for the cutest outfits all while avoiding the baby section at the department stores like it was contaminated with the plague. Then I turned 30 and was finally ready to have a baby. Believe it or not trying to get pregnant involved so much more than just “doing the deed”. I’m sure that for many women it was that easy, but for me it involved finding other ways to get pregnant.
Let me start off by saying that I respect Obstetricians and Gynecologists. These are professionals that went to school for many years, have studied the female body, and have delivered babies. I am not discounting what they know and what they do. But I want to share MY journey with how I found out I was pregnant even when the doctor that did the procedure said it did not work.
The plan to get pregnant
I was 32 and married for six years when my husband and I decided to start a family. We both had good jobs. I even worked from home. The time to have children seemed ideal as working from home would give me the flexibility to stay at home with the baby while making a full-time income. So we had a plan.. get off of birth control, go see the OB/GYN for a checkup to make sure I’m good, then it’s time for baby.
After six months of trying to conceive I still was not pregnant. I could not understand why it did not happen yet. Putting my husband on a schedule to have sex every time I was ovulating was so frustrating. Trying to get pregnant was turning into a job, not a joyous romantic act of love that it was supposed to be.
By this time I had become obsessed with getting pregnant. I was researching for hours on end trying to find answers as to why I was not getting pregnant. Then one day I was ovulating and immediately told my husband that it was time to “get to work on making baby”. A couple weeks later I took a pregnancy test and guess what, I was pregnant!
I immediately went to see my doctor and he said that I was not pregnant. I showed him the picture of the pregnancy test and he said that my hCG level (Human Chorionic Gonadotropin) or pregnancy hormone as most of us would understand it was a 2. He said that my level had to be 5 or higher to be pregnant.
Tests and procedures
I told my doctor I had been trying to conceive for six months so he said to take Clomid which would help induce ovulation. He also referred me to an IVF specialist to have a Hysterosalpingram (HSG) test done. A blue dye was injected into my fallopian tubes to see if they were blocked. The results showed that my tubes were indeed blocked.
According to the IVF doctor, since I was in my 30’s and had been trying to get pregnant for six months, he determined that my best course of action was to start treatments. The costs would range from $12k-$30k depending on what my needs were. Well I do not know about you, but I do not have $30,000 lying around. I was not prepared to spend $30,000 for treatments that were not 100% guaranteed to work.
As I left the doctor’s office I did some thinking, praying, soul searching, you name it. I kept wondering what to do. Where do I go from here? I kept thinking that there has to be another way to get pregnant. Should I give up on the idea of becoming a mom?
Back to square one
After doing more research online, I came across a doctor that was surprisingly close to where I live. He was an OB/GYN who performed something called a laparoscopy. It’s a minimally invasive surgical procedure that uses a scope that has a small camera attached to view the internal female reproductive organs all while being able to view it on a video monitor. Doctors sometimes use it to view female reproductive organs to see if there are any issues. After being told by the IVF doctor that my fallopian tubes were blocked, I had to find another way to get pregnant. So I contacted this doctor to see if he could possibly unblock my tubes. This could be the key to getting pregnant after laparoscopy.
Once I had my consultation with this doctor I had the laparoscopic procedure done within a couple of weeks. Unfortunately, the procedure did not work. The doctor said that he could not unblock my tubes because they were tied up like a ball of yarn. I was devastated. I had never heard of fallopian tubes being tied up like a ball of yarn. How the heck did that happen?
Of course I had to be the one that this did not work for. At this point I figured that it just wasn’t in the cards for me to have a baby. I mean it’s not that I did not try to explore all of my options or did I.
You see, when I want something bad enough I will do whatever it takes to get it. Wanting to have a baby was no different. Well ya’ll know what I did. I went back to doing my research and here is where things started to change.
The power of positive thinking
The first thing that changed was my mindset. The first time I tried to get pregnant, I treated it like it was a job. I put so much pressure on myself and my husband. This time around I promised myself that things would be different.
I decided to read the book The Secret imagining what I wanted and believing that I could get it. Then I started researching natural ways to conceive. I came across sites that had so many natural remedies for various fertility issues for both men and women. After I read about different products, I ordered things relating to issues that I had.
I ordered fertility tea and other items to help boost my fertility I was so excited to go the natural route of conceiving. Doing meditations from websites like Circle & Bloom’s Positivity and Mindfulness for Getting Pregnant, and having conversations with my higher power, all made me feel good about doing things the natural way. Three months later, I found out I was pregnant for real this time!
The moral of the story is…
I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant. After a year of trying so many different things and having many challenges to conceive it finally happened for me. The same doctor that performed my laparoscopy surgery was in complete shock. He could not believe that I was able to get pregnant. He was so sure that the procedure to unblock my fallopian tubes did not work. But alas I proved him wrong. I never told my doctor that I had done natural remedies to try to get pregnant. Was it getting pregnant after laparoscopy? Was it the natural remedies? or both that helped me get pregnant. But the end result was I did and that is all that really matters.
The take home message is while you seek the professional opinions of doctors remember that it’s JUST AN OPINION. I encourage all of you who have similar experiences like mine to DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH. The internet is a fantastic tool that we hold in the palms of our hands. USE IT! Also, seek knowledge from message boards, blogs, Facebook, etc. You have to trust yourself, know your own body, know if something is not right. Look for ways to find the answers to your questions even if they are not conventional. I mean you have nothing to lose only a sweet baby in your arms to gain. If you truly believe that things will work out for you, then they will. You just have to believe and put in the work.
I hope that you have found this post helpful. If you are trying to get pregnant, please keep in mind that every woman is different and what worked for me may not work for you. I would love to hear about your own experiences when you found out you were pregnant – whether naturally or through other means. Please feel free to share your stories in the comments below. Until next time!